Are you Making the top 10 Rookie Mistakes brides make when
planning a wedding?
We asked planning guru Jane Anderson of 'Calm Happy Bride' which mistakes
to avoid ... AND she has an exclusive gift for Wedding
Style Guide readers ...
"Some weddings are just
different. They linger in your memory as
especially beautiful and individual. You
know the ones, they seem effortless and everything just feels 'right'.
Well, they are the weddings where
the bride is fully 'there' on the day ... she's in the moment... all the
details are handled ... ALL of them ... and she is free to enjoy the day.
We see a lot of brides get into the
middle of their wedding planning and feel overwhelmed by the enormity of the
task and all the decisions they have to make.
Getting a grip on the details, and
keeping your cool, is so important to creating a special and individual event.
So, here are 10 'rookie mistakes' to
avoid if you don't want to turn into one of those harpy creatures that no-one -
including your husband to be - recognises!!
1) You aren't sequencing your purchasing
decisions strategically... It sounds sensible, but many brides rush to buy
all the small details, and then find that the larger factors, the venues for
instance, don't really work. Getting the sequencing right is everything in
putting together an amazing event. It means it all hangs together more coherently
and you aren't spending twice!
2) You don't really know what you are spending …. We find that breaking costs down to totals per head is a real
reality check. If you do this, you can see what the wedding, or the reception,
is really costing. Then you can make an informed assessment of whether that's
reasonable or whether you need to make some adjustments.
3) You haven't actually heard the band playing... Music can make or break a wedding. If you are having any form of
live music, you MUST listen to them before hand, either on CD or via a download
or go and visit them at a gig. For both the ceremony and the reception, music
is key and it's too late on the night if you discover your band is more karaoke
that ratpack.
4) You asked your bridesmaids before you talked about costs and
expectations... Tricky one, especially if you
aren't intending to meet all the costs of their participation in your wedding.
Be clear with your attendants about your expectations of them, both in terms of
what you expect them to pay for and what you would like them to do on the day.
Often, people will be looking for gentle direction from you as they want you to
be happy with the day.
5) You are 'telling' your suppliers what you want ... We see this alot. Talking relies on the picture in the other
person's mind matching the one in yours and is not very reliable. For instance
'antique white' can be different things to different people... some think of
the Dulux colour, others think more cream. So, where possible send photographs,
send fabric swatches, email images of what you want and be precise IN WRITING.
Don't assume your suppliers and attendants just know what you are talking
about. Show them.
6) You think you need a wedding planner ... We have nothing against wedding planners. Some do a truly
exceptional job. But, you can plan and deliver your wedding yourself as long as
you have a good plan. There are some secrets, but it isn't a black art and
especially if you are on a budget, effective delegation and prior organisation will
get you through the day.
7) You haven't met your photographer... Sitting down with your chosen photographer or videographer - the
person actually taking your photos on the day - is really important. What they
deliver will be the record of the day forever. Firstly, you need to get along.
They will be an important component on the day and if you don't click, it can
be really awkward. Secondly, its a chance to give a list of 'must have' photos
of people. And thirdly, it will give you a chance to understand how they
work. For instance, will there be a big spotlight if you are having a video. If
your photographer can't meet you, think about changing to one who can
prioritise you.
8) You haven't spoken with your fiancé about what you expect
from each other on the wedding day ... This
is an interesting one which we hear quite a lot. The last thing you think you
need to think about is your fiancé right? He's going to want to spend every
minute by your side right? Ok, every couple is different, but a quick chat with
the love of your life about how you would both like to the wedding to go is a
good idea. Sounds unromantic, but sometimes assumptions and expectations are
wildly different and can lead to disappointment.
9) You are copying your best friend's wedding... Taking inspiration from weddings you love is a great idea, but
replicating has a sense of competition and will leave the day feeling empty.
Plan your wedding, your way and ensure the day is a reflection of you and your
fiance.
10) You don't have a step-by-step plan .... Please, please, please plan. You need two, one to guide
you in the preparation and one for the wedding day. If you don't have both you
will run over budget (more than 85% of brides say they did) and you are likely
to get more frazzled than you need to be... that will effect you, your
relationships and the day itself. So, plan the plan, then do the plan!"
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3 comments:
Really One the tough task is Plan a Wedding. There are lots of things to keep in mind like, Catering, Wedding Ring, Decoration, Theme, Dress, and many other things.
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I am totally agree with your post,planning a wedding is not an easy task. Sometimes we neglect some task, thinking it will be done. When time comes and work is not done we get stress of planning. Your tips are really helpful. Other option is we can also choose wedding planner for planning a wedding.
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