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The phrases that men hate to hear

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The phrases that men hate to hear are usually the ones that women use most often (and they are serious).

We don’t know if it is a protective response or they are just tired of hearing it, but men pretend they are deaf or they burst out when they hear these hateful phrases.

Here are some of the most awful phrases for the men’s ears…and how can you say the same thing, but in a different way.

“We’ve got to talk.”

Usually most women keep their emotions down and wait until their patience runs over…then they explode and decide to deal with the problem straight away. It doesn’t matter why you use these words, but they really annoy men, because they make them expect something awful to happen. That is why if you want to start a serious conversation, the best option is to do it when you are making something together with your husband (having dinner, watching TV, laying). Just paraphrase your sentence to make him comfortable.

“I am so fat.”

Here is the problem: He hates it when you say you are fat, because he likes your body the way it is and he accepts every change as a natural process. If he starts complaining about his tummy and his bad shape, you won’t like it, will you? There are for sure plenty of other reasons to love him. It is the same for him. And if he happens to agree with you sometime, it will probably be because of the fact that instead of complaining, you could start training and working on it.

“You don’t do this anymore.”

Researches show that women are more emotional, but men are more sensitive. This means that if you tell him that he is wrong and that he is acting unreasonable, he will probably shut to himself or he might just respond aggressive to you. If, for example you tell him that he isn’t so nice lately and he doesn’t do any nice things for you, you practically tell him that you are unappreciated.

More effective way of expressing your complaints and accusations is to do it by using a particular reason for an excuse. For example, “I know that you don’t remember any dates, but the fact that you forgot about our anniversary makes me feel that you accept our relationship for granted.”

“When do you think you will be ready to become a father?”

This question is almost the same as “When will we get married?” Family and fatherhood are both a serious step which shouldn’t be taken in an irresponsible way. Men realize that. In both cases they will feel pressed against the wall, because the initiative is yours. And it is very likely that they hurt your feeling if you ask them something like that.

This is why, if you feel that your biological clock is tic-tacking, while your partner keeps putting off this important step, you should have an honest conversation with him. Tell him about your worries, concerns and visions about the future. Find out what he thinks. You should better know these things now, than when it’s too late.

“Not tonight, darling”

Men hate to be rejected. They realize that they could be in the same situation, but the fact that you suppress their libido, makes them angry. The best thing you should do when you are not in the mood of having sex is telling your husband how much you love him and how much he turns you on. But after a tough day at work, you feel really exhausted and uncomfortable. Your partner should know that you are not rejecting him, but the physical contact in this particular night.

And which is the phrase that your husband hates to hear?  

Mother-in-Laws

For men only! Don’t be afraid of your mother-in-law!

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The mother-in-law is the mother of your partner. This literally means that your half is a half of a mother-in-law.

A long time ago, Balzac said that if you want to find out what your wife would be after 20 years, you need to look at her mother. But don’t be afraid – times change.

Nowadays, the mother-in-law earns almost as much money as the father-in-law, she commands, she invests and she has her own finances. She loves her children, her car and you, only if you don’t remind her of her own husband.

If you want to win her, you have to earn a lot, to like what she likes and not to criticize her clothing, even when you are convinced that they are your wife’s. If the mother-in-law is the “head of the family”, we advice you not to pretend you are Napoleon. You will get over your Waterloo right when you try arguing with her, even if the subject is the yesterday’s soccer game. She might not have watched it, but she has an opinion! You should respect that.

If you have happened upon a mother-in-law who is a housewife, you should take off your shoes the moment you enter the door. You should buy her a cleaning system “Rainbow” and you should not touch the remote control when your hands are dirty. Don’t leave any hair on the soap, clean the table and don’t leave your clothes on the floor. Invite friends at home only when you know that you have enough time to clean the mess after they leave and of course to get sober. Oh, and don’t forget to put the toilet seat back in place!

If your destiny has served you with “miss perfection”, you better be careful. You won’t ever be good enough for her daughter. There will be always someone else who is better than you, smarter, richer, more careful and more concerned about you. Put up with it! Arguing with her is pointless: she talks, you don’t make a sound and then you don’t make a sound – she talks. You should better remain silent. It is a big mistake to try proving to her that you are the right person. Whatever you do, she will be convinced that you will never become good enough.

The mother-in-law who is intellectual is something else. She thinks of you as her son, she admires you and she supports you, she even takes your side when you are arguing. You could go to the movies with her and even on a vacation. And all this – until her daughter starts complaining from you. Then she turns into a tiger. For such situations people (probably men) have their sleeping bags and beds prepared. You should better leave and visit a friend for a while. This will make her think that you are not the one who has made a mistake and that you are not guilty. This happens with no words, with a sad look. At least until you turn round the corner.

The dream mother-in-law is friendly and always smiling as in a tooth paste advertisement. She shines like a summer sun and she always talks good things about you in front of her friends. She is always delicate, she never interrupts you and she knows her rights and obligations. She always helps without asking you to return the favor. She is always at the right place in the right time. She is generous and helpful.

In case you have run across such a lovely person…you are probably dreaming! Hello, hello…wake up! Stop sleeping; get up, because you have millions of things to do! Don’t forget to throw the garbage on your way out…

The Hairstyle.

The woman’s character according to the hairstyle

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The hairstyle influences the confidence and sense of the world. It reflects the inner world of its holder as well as the momentary condition. The hair type says a lot about the character of the person. The length can give away the temperament or the communication skills. 

It is good to know that the hair length determines the quantity and speed of the main brain’s energy. Long hair gives more strength but slow down the reaction and outcome in life. The short one supplies the organism with harsh but powerful energy, speeding the processes in the organism as well as the reaction and outcome of events.
So if you want to keep a happy period in your life let your hair grow. If you want to achieve something within short terms, the short hair will help you.
Let’s go back to the hairstyles. It is a common rule that when a woman wants to change something in her she starts with the hair.
There are more permanent hairstyles that women do not change for years; we will talk about them now.

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Short, sports haircuts speak of dynamicity, energy and health. Women who have such hair manage to realize their personal plans; they manage to get out of every situation without any outside help. Short-haired women look intelligent and confident. Women with very short hair show tough character and emancipation. Open-ears, neck and forehead hairstyles speak of balance and competitive spirit. Their holders are often leaders in everything they do: business, sport, friendship, sex. The ladies who prefer short and very short haircuts as well as those with extravagant and thick bangs are liable to flirt, they are risky, including in love and sex, they are prone to adventures but they are not very practical.

Medium-length haircuts speak of stability, materially speaking.
A “Shiny lion’s mane” haircut speaks about perfect control over work and heart. These hairstyles uncover the art abilities of their holders as well as other positive features – kindness, cheerfulness and romance. People with such hair are cheerful but usually take everything too personal.
More interesting hairstyles like short haircuts on the front with a tail on the back speak of success in society, self-respect and good confidence. The long, freely falling hair is a symbol of the passion which every one of us has; it is a symbol of freedom. Many man nowadays waste time choosing women who to love for their loose hair, expressing a special kind of sexiness according to them. But women with this type of hair are usually energetic, very impulsive, initiative in personal terms.
Long blond and straight hair – it is the girl you can take to a romantic dinner but you will be the only one talking because she’s shy (probably very shy) and only the sparkle in her eyes will tell you you will be seeing each other again. Women having long, dark and curly hair are considered to be not confident and not very intelligent.
Pony tail speaks of women knowing the influence they have on men and they are ready to compete with those who threaten their influence. For women with this type of hair you should put more effort into attracting their attention. They can surprise the man every time they are together. Women who lift their hair lower on the back are confident and not very impulsive. Too flattened pony tail indicates of still women, very exacting and even depressed.
The extensions speak of success in education, crafts and trade.
Dyed or curled hair attract more resources necessary for communication, they are successful in studying and traveling. Red dyed hair for example speaks for the will of the omen to be provoked, to be noticed – not only by the opposite sex. This woman is always initiative and determines her faith all by herself.
Strict haircuts express style, elitism and inaccessibility. Their holders are strict, they like classical things in life. Women with strict and tidy hair are always calm with their loved ones. They do not act extremely emotional and are almost never spontaneous.
The straight box-shaped hair expresses ability to communicate well with the peers as well as with the older ones. Typical for them is that they protect their family, they help creating it although their choice should be approved by the parents.
The Vamp Style hair shows special sexuality. Such hair type speaks for provocativeness to meeting people from the opposite sex.

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Braided hair speaks of inner harmony and peace, lack of contradictions.
Special “teller” of the human character is the bangs: for men as well as for women. Under it usually hidden are the shy, non-confident, the infantile. Women with thick bangs hide something and are always very prone to secrets. If they can, they stay observers all the time. They are very volatile – they change moods, opinions and positions. They wake up with one decision and go to bed with another. They are pretentious and treacherous. They always aim to be recognized at any cost even though they often seemingly “bare” themselves before others. It is an act. They like themselves the way they are.
Evenly distributed hair expresses inner balance. Such people are stable or at least try to be such in everything they do. The twisted on the left hair expresses more determination with women. Hair, twisted on the right speaks for famine features and delicacy in relations.
Open forehead always speaks of energetic, powerful women. They are firm, determined and open. It is all as it should be with them. Discussions are short and usually end the way they want it.

Women who wear a wig suffer of a mania for changing their identity all the time. They look for a stable base but they are never sure in what they do, they try to attract somebody they loved when they were young. Maybe they do not realize it. The covering of the years marks characters that are always insecure; they adjust hard and are not very communicative. They are stubborn but shy and never fully reveal. They are ready to shrink every time they feel coolness. They are easily hurt and are not very faithful

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Marriage insight

Finding the ideal partner inflicts more harm than good, according to psychologists. They reached an insight into how the never-ending search for the ideal love can prevent you from enjoying your marriage or the relationship you have.
Marriage is dead! The strong grasp of the law and prejudice has loosened. We are released from the obligation to preserve the horrible marriage for the sake of the children and for “the people.” The divorce rate has remained constant at around 50 percent in the last decade. The easy way we enter relationships and ruin them, often turns marriage into something like sports.
Once upon a time marriage as an institution was valued due to its practical distribution of roles: the dad that earns, the mother that takes care of the home.
Nowadays a partner who shares our taste and status, who sees us for who we are, who loves us, for all those reasons that we think are worth, who helps us become the person you always wanted to be …
We ran away from the rigid social order and instead adopted the more onerous mandate: to find a perfect match. And anything that we believe is not short of this ideal, it prompts us to ask: “Is that all you can find? Am I as happy as I should be? Could there be someone somewhere better for me? “And often by answering with “yes”to the last question we become victims of our own great expectations.
This “someone” is of course our “soul mate”, the man or woman who will rid us of our weaknesses, will provoke the best in us and will provide continuous support and respect, which is the essence of the contemporary relationship.
The truth is that few marriages or partnerships consistently follow this ideal. The result is a small hell, where we care about our partner but also – secretly – stepped one step at the door to our heart. By doing so we constantly revise our relationship: “Will I be happier, smarter and better person with someone else?”. This is a painful hesitation, characteristic of the modern world.

“Nothing else caused more unhappiness than the concept of the soul-mate” says the Atlanta psychologist Frank Peteman.
He gives the example of “John”, a social worker who married a business woman in his early 20s. He met another woman, a psychologist when he was 29 and after two agonizing years, left his wife – for her. But things did not work out – after four years of cohabitation and increasing pressure from her to marry him, he left her. Now John realizes that the relationship with his wife was strong and with future, but he thinks he was not able to understand that 10 years ago when he left her. “There was always someone better around the corner and it turned the safety and security of marriage in boredom and routine. It was hard to resist the attraction of women who seemed more exciting, “he said. Now 42 years old and still single, John realizes: “I hurt others, and I hurt myself.”
Like John, many of us don’t give up the commitment, but also the right to keep looking. Psychotherapist Terrence Real calls this behavior with the term “stable ambiguity.” “It means to walk along the edge of the relationship – you’re in it but not for it,” he said. There are a million ways to do that: to have a relationship, but not to be sure you want it, you want to keep your eye open for good “deals”, to choose someone that is impossible to be with or is far away.
In fact, commitment and marriage offer real physical and financial “rewards”.
Touting the benefits of marriage may sound like politically rhetoric, but nonpartisan social polls say it: people who have relationships have a lot more than singles, at least on average. Married people are more financially stable, according to Linda Waite, a sociologist at the University of Chicago. Both married men and married women have more “benefits” than those without a partner, for women, the differences are usually very big.
The benefits go beyond the piggy bank. Married people tend to live longer than those who are alone. Couples also live better: “When people expect to stay together, says Waite, they combine their resources and improve their standard of living. They also combine their skills – such as cooking or financial management and achieve better results. Women tend to improve the health of their men by banning stupid bachelor habits and bugging them to exercise and. .. to eat their vegetables. Also – people who do not compare their partner with someone else in bed, have fewer sexual problems and are more emotionally satisfied by sex. The relationship doesn’t have to be wonderful and exciting for a better life – statistics is the same as for mediocre marriages and for fervent as well. 

Planning your honeymoon

Eight Months to One Year Before

• Make a budget.
  Determine how much money you can spend on the honeymoon. This will help you narrow down your choices.
• Decide whether to use a travel agent.
  Travel specialists can take the planning off your plate and do all the legwork. (Some charge very reasonable fees.) Find one at the American Society of Travel Agents’ website, travelsense.org.
• Decide where you’re going.
  No brainer, right? As soon as you get engaged, you should start thinking about where you want to honeymoon. At the beach? Europe, perhaps? Consider the time of year, and what the weather will be like.
• Buy plane tickets.
  If you are using frequent flier miles, you’ll have a much better chance of getting the flights you want if you book well in advance. Most airlines release frequent flier seats around 11 months ahead of time. Booking early will also help you get a nonstop flight. Missing a connection and spending the night in an airport hotel? Not so romantic.
• Book your hotel.
  Nail down your accommodations early, so you can focus on the more minor details. Hotels in Europe tend to be small, so good ones fill up. Have a few options before you start contacting hotels.

Six Months Before

• Do any of the above if you haven’t already.
  So you aren’t having a long engagement. Don’t worry! Get started now, and take care of your plane tickets and hotel as soon as possible.
• Schedule any transportation.
  Once you know your itinerary, buy train tickets or look into a rental car, if any of that is needed. Even if you are heading to an all-inclusive beach resort you never plan to leave, you’ll need transportation to and from the airport. Make sure it’s taken care of now. Note: Eurail, the major train network across Europe, may not have updated schedules until 60 days before your trip. Go ahead and buy your overall pass, then schedule seats closer to the date.
• Make the impossible-to-get dinner reservation.
  If you’re dying to go to a Michelin-starred restaurant that’s booked months in advance, now is the time to secure a reservation.
• Get or renew your passport.
  The turnaround for getting or renewing a passport can be as quick as a month, but it’s better to have this squared away. If your passport is current, make sure it will be for at least six months after you return home. That is a requirement for some countries.
• Apply for any visas or other documentation.
  Know what the country you’re visiting requires, and take care of it.
• Purchase travel insurance.
  It may seem unnecessary (you can estimate it will run about 5 percent of your total cost), but when you are spending a lot of money on a once-in-a-lifetime trip, having it canceled because of Hurricane Joey is much more costly than a few hundred dollars. Travel insurance plans can cover everything from illness to acts of God.
• Get vaccinations.
  If you’re going to Africa, Southeast Asia (hello, Thailand!), or other exotic destinations, you may need immunizations. And some are given in stages that take time. Check the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention’s website, cdc.gov, for information.

Three Months Before

• Plan your activities.
  You don’t want to plan too much, and you may just want to sleep on the beach. But if you are going on a more cultural trip, go ahead and buy tickets to museums, or book a trip to a nearby architectural site. You won’t waste time waiting in lines or figuring out details once you’re there.
• Make a quick mental packing list.
  Need new luggage? Or a camera? If you determine in advance that you need expensive items, you might ask for them as wedding gifts. Or you may just realize you need to go bikini shopping.

One Month Before

• Finalize transportation.
  Reserve seats on trains if you’re going to be moving around a country. Finalize your itinerary or confirm your car rental. If you are driving in a foreign country, get an international driving permit (available at AAA offices).
• Book spa appointments or other activities.
  If you’re heading to a mega, all-inclusive resort, you may want to prebook spa treatments and special activities, like sailing trips or other excursions, that might fill up. Call and ask the resort concierge for advice.
• Fill prescriptions.
  Make sure you have full bottles of any medications you take regularly.
• Shop.
  Now’s the time to shop for clothes—not the week before the wedding. Don’t forget things like voltage converters or specific garments (like a head covering for a place of worship) you’ll need for some countries.

Two Weeks Before

• Confirm everything.
  Call the hotel and any restaurants to confirm your reservations.
• Make copies of your documents.
  Have copies of your passport, visa, credit cards, driver’s license, and any other important documents in case something is lost or stolen. Leave a set with someone at home and pack one in your suitcase.
• Write down important phone numbers.
  If you are visiting a foreign country, know the location of the closest U.S. embassy. Also, have the phone numbers of your credit card companies so you can quickly call if there are any problems.
• Get some local currency.
  You can easily get cash from an ATM in any country, but having a little bit of money on hand (about the equivalent of $200) is a good idea—even if it’s just to take a cab to the hotel without having to stop at an ATM in the airport.
• Pack.
  Don’t wait until the week before the wedding, when you’ll be extremely busy. Pack what you can ahead of time. You can throw in toiletries at the last minute.
  Related: Honeymoon Packing Checklist

One or Two Days Before

• Confirm the hotel. Again.
  It can’t hurt. Just to give you peace of mind.
• Check the weather.
  If your destination is having an unseasonably cold week, you may want to throw in another sweater.
• Pack a carry-on for the flight.
  Have essentials, like your passport, cell phone charger, and anything else you tend to forget, ready to go.

Wedding Favors

Thinking of giving your guests some fun little favours? Then here’s a few ideas for your special day!

1. Pour some jelly beans into clear tubes and voila! You have some cheap & beautifully coloured favours!

2. Matches are becoming ever more popular in the world of weddings, especially with a clever slogan like these!

3. For the book lovers out there, give the gift of literature!

4. Can’t forget to keep the beer cold!

5. Bubbles! Bubbles! Bubbles!

6. We love these mini button cookies!

7. Here’s a great way to ensure you get some awesome, personal photos on your wedding day! Dot these cards around the tables for your guests!

8. Or shed a little light with some candles matching your colour scheme!

9. This musical couple gave their guests CD’s to take home!

10. For those having a summer wedding why not bag up some colourful fruit?

11. If you’re sampling some Chinese cuisine at your wedding then add a personal touch to the chopsticks making them a perfect momentum from your wedding!

The night before your wedding...

Top things you should do the night before your wedding

Essential ‘to dos’ before your big day

Getting wed, tying the knot, marrying – whatever you call it, it’s a big deal. With all those months of preparation and planning for the happiest day of your life, it’s important to take a moment to reflect and relax before the wedding comes. Here is a tick list of the best things to do the night before your wedding.

Eat a flat-belly dinner

No one wants to be squeezing into their wedding dress or suit on the morning of their wedding, so try to resist a blow-out meal the night before. Steer clear from stodgy takeaways or belly-busting pasta dishes. Try to limit your alcohol intake too – celebratory beer and champagne may seem like a good idea at the time, but beware the bloat. Instead, opt for tummy-trimming dark leafy greens, brown rice and a lovely piece of grilled chicken or fish, washed down with plenty of fluid-retention-busting water.

Walk down memory lane

Cheesy, maybe. But flicking through your old photos is a calming and sentimental thing to do the night before your wedding. Take a look at your parents’ or grandparents’ wedding photos or pictures of you growing up. Take a loving flick through pictures of you and your husband or wife-to-be over the years – you’ll soon realise how far you’ve come and it will get you excited for the next chapter in your life together.

Read through your vows or wedding speech

You may have gone over it time and time again over the past few weeks, or you may just be starting to write it now, but your vows or wedding speech has to be spot-on for the big day so give it the once-over one last time. Have a cheeky trial run in front of the mirror, or get your chief bridesmaid or best man to film you on their phone. This should hopefully banish any last-minute nerves and gives you the chance to make any tweaks.

Pamper yourself

If you ever needed an excuse to indulge in some pampering and me-time then the eve of your wedding is it. Whip out those face packs, soak those tootsies and buff your talons – tonight’s the night to treat yourself. For an indulgent homemade face mask, mash together banana, honey and a squeeze of lemon and smother over your face and neck – then just wash off after ten minutes. Or as a handy tip for super-soft hands (perfect for avoiding that infamous Kate Middleton ‘stuck ring’ moment!), just mix together sugar, olive oil and water and a drop of perfume, rub onto your hands in circular motions, then rinse.

Make a list

The night before you legally declare that you wish to spend the rest of your life with someone is definitely a time for forward thinking, if ever there was one. Your future together spans out ahead of you like the aisle you will be walking up the following day (eek!). This is a good opportunity to write a list of the things you wish to do, see, experience and achieve together. Holidays, children, pets and starting your own business together all deserve a mention; be as realistic or wishful as you like. This list will come in handy on your future wedding anniversaries when you can look back at it together and see what you can tick off, or what you wish to add.

Sleep!

Last but not least, sleep! Every bride and groom should look their best on their big day and that means no puffy eyes, pallid complexion or dark circles. Understandably it can be a mega challenge fighting those butterflies in your tummy and attempting slumber the night before such a huge day, and even Prince William himself admitted to a restless night before his wedding day. Try a long bath or shower using products containing essential oils such as lavender or bergamot. Why not even try some meditation? Aim to completely clear your mind of bouquets, veils and bridesmaids for just ten minutes while you focus on your breathing. Perhaps sip on some chamomile tea, but avoid sleeping pills or alcohol as ways to drift off – the last thing you want is to have a bad reaction or be drowsy the next day.

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