Thursday, August 28, 2014

Marriage insight

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Finding the ideal partner inflicts more harm than good, according to psychologists. They reached an insight into how the never-ending search for the ideal love can prevent you from enjoying your marriage or the relationship you have.
Marriage is dead! The strong grasp of the law and prejudice has loosened. We are released from the obligation to preserve the horrible marriage for the sake of the children and for “the people.” The divorce rate has remained constant at around 50 percent in the last decade. The easy way we enter relationships and ruin them, often turns marriage into something like sports.
Once upon a time marriage as an institution was valued due to its practical distribution of roles: the dad that earns, the mother that takes care of the home.
Nowadays a partner who shares our taste and status, who sees us for who we are, who loves us, for all those reasons that we think are worth, who helps us become the person you always wanted to be …
We ran away from the rigid social order and instead adopted the more onerous mandate: to find a perfect match. And anything that we believe is not short of this ideal, it prompts us to ask: “Is that all you can find? Am I as happy as I should be? Could there be someone somewhere better for me? “And often by answering with “yes”to the last question we become victims of our own great expectations.
This “someone” is of course our “soul mate”, the man or woman who will rid us of our weaknesses, will provoke the best in us and will provide continuous support and respect, which is the essence of the contemporary relationship.
The truth is that few marriages or partnerships consistently follow this ideal. The result is a small hell, where we care about our partner but also – secretly – stepped one step at the door to our heart. By doing so we constantly revise our relationship: “Will I be happier, smarter and better person with someone else?”. This is a painful hesitation, characteristic of the modern world.

“Nothing else caused more unhappiness than the concept of the soul-mate” says the Atlanta psychologist Frank Peteman.
He gives the example of “John”, a social worker who married a business woman in his early 20s. He met another woman, a psychologist when he was 29 and after two agonizing years, left his wife – for her. But things did not work out – after four years of cohabitation and increasing pressure from her to marry him, he left her. Now John realizes that the relationship with his wife was strong and with future, but he thinks he was not able to understand that 10 years ago when he left her. “There was always someone better around the corner and it turned the safety and security of marriage in boredom and routine. It was hard to resist the attraction of women who seemed more exciting, “he said. Now 42 years old and still single, John realizes: “I hurt others, and I hurt myself.”
Like John, many of us don’t give up the commitment, but also the right to keep looking. Psychotherapist Terrence Real calls this behavior with the term “stable ambiguity.” “It means to walk along the edge of the relationship – you’re in it but not for it,” he said. There are a million ways to do that: to have a relationship, but not to be sure you want it, you want to keep your eye open for good “deals”, to choose someone that is impossible to be with or is far away.
In fact, commitment and marriage offer real physical and financial “rewards”.
Touting the benefits of marriage may sound like politically rhetoric, but nonpartisan social polls say it: people who have relationships have a lot more than singles, at least on average. Married people are more financially stable, according to Linda Waite, a sociologist at the University of Chicago. Both married men and married women have more “benefits” than those without a partner, for women, the differences are usually very big.
The benefits go beyond the piggy bank. Married people tend to live longer than those who are alone. Couples also live better: “When people expect to stay together, says Waite, they combine their resources and improve their standard of living. They also combine their skills – such as cooking or financial management and achieve better results. Women tend to improve the health of their men by banning stupid bachelor habits and bugging them to exercise and. .. to eat their vegetables. Also – people who do not compare their partner with someone else in bed, have fewer sexual problems and are more emotionally satisfied by sex. The relationship doesn’t have to be wonderful and exciting for a better life – statistics is the same as for mediocre marriages and for fervent as well. 

Wednesday, August 27, 2014

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Wednesday, July 30, 2014

Wedding Favors

Thinking of giving your guests some fun little favours? Then here’s a few ideas for your special day!
1. Pour some jelly beans into clear tubes and voila! You have some cheap & beautifully coloured favours!
2. Matches are becoming ever more popular in the world of weddings, especially with a clever slogan like these!
3. For the book lovers out there, give the gift of literature!
4. Can’t forget to keep the beer cold!
5. Bubbles! Bubbles! Bubbles!
6. We love these mini button cookies!
7. Here’s a great way to ensure you get some awesome, personal photos on your wedding day! Dot these cards around the tables for your guests!
8. Or shed a little light with some candles matching your colour scheme!
9. This musical couple gave their guests CD’s to take home!
10. For those having a summer wedding why not bag up some colourful fruit?


11. If you’re sampling some Chinese cuisine at your wedding then add a personal touch to the chopsticks making them a perfect momentum from your wedding!

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Monday, July 14, 2014

The night before your wedding...


Top things you should do the night before your wedding

Essential ‘to dos’ before your big day

Getting wed, tying the knot, marrying – whatever you call it, it’s a big deal. With all those months of preparation and planning for the happiest day of your life, it’s important to take a moment to reflect and relax before the wedding comes. Here is a tick list of the best things to do the night before your wedding.
Every bride and groom should look their best on their big day, so get a good night's sleep

Eat a flat-belly dinner

No one wants to be squeezing into their wedding dress or suit on the morning of their wedding, so try to resist a blow-out meal the night before. Steer clear from stodgy takeaways or belly-busting pasta dishes. Try to limit your alcohol intake too – celebratory beer and champagne may seem like a good idea at the time, but beware the bloat. Instead, opt for tummy-trimming dark leafy greens, brown rice and a lovely piece of grilled chicken or fish, washed down with plenty of fluid-retention-busting water.

Walk down memory lane

Cheesy, maybe. But flicking through your old photos is a calming and sentimental thing to do the night before your wedding. Take a look at your parents’ or grandparents’ wedding photos or pictures of you growing up. Take a loving flick through pictures of you and your husband or wife-to-be over the years – you’ll soon realise how far you’ve come and it will get you excited for the next chapter in your life together.

Read through your vows or wedding speech

You may have gone over it time and time again over the past few weeks, or you may just be starting to write it now, but your vows or wedding speech has to be spot-on for the big day so give it the once-over one last time. Have a cheeky trial run in front of the mirror, or get your chief bridesmaid or best man to film you on their phone. This should hopefully banish any last-minute nerves and gives you the chance to make any tweaks.

Pamper yourself

If you ever needed an excuse to indulge in some pampering and me-time then the eve of your wedding is it. Whip out those face packs, soak those tootsies and buff your talons – tonight’s the night to treat yourself. For an indulgent homemade face mask, mash together banana, honey and a squeeze of lemon and smother over your face and neck – then just wash off after ten minutes. Or as a handy tip for super-soft hands (perfect for avoiding that infamous Kate Middleton ‘stuck ring’ moment!), just mix together sugar, olive oil and water and a drop of perfume, rub onto your hands in circular motions, then rinse.

Make a list

The night before you legally declare that you wish to spend the rest of your life with someone is definitely a time for forward thinking, if ever there was one. Your future together spans out ahead of you like the aisle you will be walking up the following day (eek!). This is a good opportunity to write a list of the things you wish to do, see, experience and achieve together. Holidays, children, pets and starting your own business together all deserve a mention; be as realistic or wishful as you like. This list will come in handy on your future wedding anniversaries when you can look back at it together and see what you can tick off, or what you wish to add.

Sleep!

Last but not least, sleep! Every bride and groom should look their best on their big day and that means no puffy eyes, pallid complexion or dark circles. Understandably it can be a mega challenge fighting those butterflies in your tummy and attempting slumber the night before such a huge day, and even Prince William himself admitted to a restless night before his wedding day. Try a long bath or shower using products containing essential oils such as lavender or bergamot. Why not even try some meditation? Aim to completely clear your mind of bouquets, veils and bridesmaids for just ten minutes while you focus on your breathing. Perhaps sip on some chamomile tea, but avoid sleeping pills or alcohol as ways to drift off – the last thing you want is to have a bad reaction or be drowsy the next day.
- See more at: http://www.getwed.com/articles/top-things-you-should-do-the-night-before-your-wedding-au-en/#sthash.h79geWe0.dpuf
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Friday, June 27, 2014

Wedding Style Guide Blog - Wedding Ideas, Inspirations and More: "Your Lily" for Weddings.

Wedding Style Guide Blog - Wedding Ideas, Inspirations and More: "Your Lily" for Weddings.: Meaningful Lilies for your wedding Flowers are simply part and parcel of a beautiful joyous wedding day.  But choosing just ...



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Tuesday, June 24, 2014

Selecting your music


"IF MUSIC BE THE FOOD OF LOVE, PLAY ON"



Years from now, no matter where in the world you find yourself, no matter how old you are, whenever you hear the pieces you have selected for your wedding, it will bring the two of you back to that special day when you were married.

Music sets the tone of your wedding, so choosing the right music is essential. Although particular works and styles of performance are synonymous with weddings, the music you select should reflect your personal style and the overall theme of your wedding. Many brides opt for an elegant classical selection of music, while others choose to enhance a theme (jazz, new age, ethnic). You can set the tone of your ceremony with your choice of ensembles. You can use the following as a guide to choosing musicians for your ceremony:

Enchanting – string trio or quartet, harpist, flautist, singer.

Light and uplifting – harpist, pianist, jazz ensemble, string trio or quartet, guitarist

Fun – jazz ensemble, singer, pianist, vocal ensemble, pop ensemble, sax quartet

Formal – string trio or quartet, organist, harpist, trumpet, classical singer

Serene – string quartet, harpist, flautist, pianist, classical guitarist

Dramatic – string quartet or double quartet, bagpipes, choir

Light background – pianist, piano and violin duo, guitar and flute duo, classical guitarist

Consider commissioning an exquisite and unique original composition for your ceremony or reception. Created especially for you, and performed for the first time at your wedding, your musical creation will remain forever yours to play with friends and family as a unique and timeless memento.

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The Ceremony


The Prelude – You will need a selection of pieces to be played as your guests arrived, approximately 15 to 30 minutes before the arrival of the bride. Generally elegant and soothing, this music will define the tone of your ceremony.

The Processional – Select music with a steady, well-defined tempo to accompany the entrance of the wedding party as they walk down the aisle.

The Entrance of the Bride – Your choice of music should direct the attention of your guests to the bride as she makes her entrance.

The Ceremony - Your ceremony music should represent your personal taste, but keep in mind that you’ll be looking back on your ceremony for the rest of your life – in ten years do you really want to be reminiscing about signing the registry to the “Chicken Dance”? 

The Recessional – Choose upbeat music as the bride and groom return down the aisle to begin their lives as husband and wife.

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The Reception

We've asked our DJ's to put together a list of popular and recommended songs for all those key points in your reception. Download their list here.

Your reception is a time to celebrate, and your choices of music will make or break your night. Begin your night with ambient music as your guests enter and enjoy dinner. Then, when it’s really time to party, the music can come to the fore as your guests find themselves on the dance floor.

As your guests arrive, the music should fade into the background. Soft, alluring music will allow conversation to comfortably take place, and as you progress into the meal, your music should provide an intimate counterpoint to the elegant visual of the reception as your guests continue to settle in and get comfortable around each other.

The Bridal Waltz (First Dance) – The formalities are now over, and it’s time to party. When choosing your music for your first dance, it’s most important for the music to be meaningful to you and your partner. While traditional choices remain popular, many couples are choosing modern songs from their favourite bands or movie soundtracks.

Now that the subtle dinner music is finished, it’s time for the party to come alive, and your ensemble or DJ will let loose with a selection of party music designed to get your guests dancing.
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